First and foremost I'm a Maritimer at heart. Born and raised by the water, it is in my veins. Moving to British Columbia is
to me like a salmon returning home even though the coasts may be different geographically. I had lived for a short time on
the Canadian Forces base at Comox on the Island but that was many years ago when I was a child though the memories of the
sea and mountains have imprinted on my mind. The water has always been in my my life and in my nature , so to speak. That
is why I think I enjoy sailing as much as I do, the meditative aspect of it. Two-hundred yards out all of the traffic, city
noises and worries disappear and you are just left with the sun, quiet waves lapping at the hull and sound of the wind whispering
through the rigging.
I'm a blue collar worker and though I've only your typical grade twelve education I am well read and well rounded. I can
hold my own in conversation with anyone in any social situation. I think deep down inside I am a writer at heart. Late at
night when the city sleeps and the house is quiet is when I enjoy putting my thoughts to paper (or computer in this day and
age). And the things you think about in that quiet of the evening! As I write at night I'll usually check on my son to throw
his covers back on him if he's kicked off his blankets, as most parents do. It never fails that for a few moments while doing
this I'll always look at his sweet, innocent child like face and one question always comes up, "what the hell did I ever
do that was so good in my life to have deserved having him coming into it?" In all my writing I've yet to come up with
an adequate answer for that. I don't believe I ever will come up with the answer either.
You've taken the time and interest to read my ad in POF which was a wee bit of reading and I appreciate that very much.
Something there has sparked your interest to make contact. There is a fair amount to read here as well but I hate typing things
over and over in emails. As well in real time chat (MSN Messenger or the phone) I always end up missing mentioning something
or another. Hopefully this will give you enough information to see if I am the person for potentially the relationship you
seek. As well I think five minutes spent being honest here saves an untold amount of time in emails then chatting to find
out we are on different pages or maybe similar pages, who knows?
In a nutshell it's really about making your own luck. The Internet dating thing is both a blessing and a curse. It is
an excellent way to meet your potential life partner especially for those of us who have really outgrown the bar scene. I
speak from experience as I met my sons mother on a similar system back East, fell madly in love and had an amazing child together.
So when people ask me if it works I say yes it sure does. The downside might be a reflection of our society in that the numbers
are so great online people can become somewhat disposable in that the smallest things can stop a relationship dead in it's
tracks before it even takes off. A buddy of mine was late for a date one time and that was enough for this woman to kiss off
the potential in that relationship. People rarely if ever mention active addictions in their lives and can be a slight bit
less honest in other areas as well. However I am an optimist and sincerely believe that by living the golden rule you will
attract similar people into your life. I remember reading an old saying that went, "a kind word multiplies many friends".
The world needs more kind words.
I am a realist as well though. I've come to realize that for those I do it for, I do it for well. For those I don't do
it for, I simply don't do it for them, period. I am nothing more then what genetics my parents gave me so if you like the
package great, if not the earth still rotates and the sun will come up tomorrow morning no matter what. I've learned that
a big hug and a big "I love you Dad" from a child makes everything OK. I guess what I'm trying to say is that my
ego is fully developed, strong and has absolutely no dependence or co-dependence on anyone else for it's survival. There are
laugh lines and wrinkles on this face, a wee bit of thinning hair in the back (genetics again) and the inevitable grey that
happens when you hit your 40's. My guess is that most women near their 40's have breasts that are somewhat less firm, other
parts that could be heading south, some laugh lines/wrinkles and a touch of grey as well. When I see a womans profile and
it states, "I'm 45 but look no older than 35" I shake my head. Aging is to be celebrated in my books. Life is
a journey, enjoy the ride.
I chatted online with a woman one time who told me she had connected via the Internet with a guy from her town, there
was a spark and they met just for coffee in her hometown. Anyway after spending a reasonable amount of time with him she felt
no potential for a spark and at the end of the coffee thanked him and told him of her feelings. He was fine with it so with
a hearty goodbye they went there separate ways. She told me that by the time she got home she had a nine page email missive
from this guy telling her what a major mistake she just made, how he was the best thing she'll never get to experience, blah,
blah, blah. I marveled at how fragile this ego was and wondered to myself, if he reacted this badly to a small amount of rejection
over something so simple as just a coffee how in the hell would he react when a problem, a real problem this time actually
crops up in the course of relationship? Gee gimme a break, it's just a coffee, nothing more or less.
So whom do I seek? Click on that button at the upper left of this page, "Whom I seek?"
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